Short Stories, Women Empowerment

Don’t Call (HER) a Slut !

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“A girl’s life was defined by lines: fine lines, hair-lines, bikini lines, class-lines, the tightrope line between being a good girl and a slut. But there was always a moment when the lines blurred and a good girl had to decide whether to toe the line, cross the line, or stay safe behind the line that guarded her virtue.”

A girl often called the most beautiful creation of God is an old adage but with the passage of time has completely lost its significance.
Why? Why has it happened? Why isn’t a girl treated like a princess anymore but a maid! A hanger, a chewing-gum! Why? Such questions arise!

The answer to them I found and today after hearing from so many people I have gathered up the courage to just vomit out my anger, my views, and my thoughts on the most beautiful creation of the Almighty!
A girl!

Congratulations. “The new angel shall spread smiles and warmth in your family. Enjoy your God’s gift. My best wishes are always with you”. Unfortunately, these aren’t the greetings which a mother gets when she gives birth to a baby girl in a country like India. Why is the mother tortured? Why the hell she has to hear from everybody? “Beta hota toh aj yeh hota aj wo hota”

Why a girl is neglected every time? Why she has to become the prisoner of the deadly restrictions?  Why she has to leave her parents’ house after her marriage? Why she has to adopt her husband’s surname? Why our blessings say “May you be the Mother of 100 sons”.

Why is she tortured? Why is she harassed? And last but not the least why she is R-A-P-E-D?
Ever since December 16thincident happened, things haven’t been the same. Residents of other cities have started to think of Delhi as a haunted city worst A RAPE CITY!  Girls who always wanted to get into DU are now scared enough to compromise with their education and to decide not coming to Delhi from their hometowns instead flying overseas to pursue their education.

Why is it so? Our coming generations are sacrificing just because of some obscene acts of some motherfuckers. We are not allowed to move outside the house after 7. We have to carry a packet of red chilli powder just for the sake of safety! And By the way Safety from whom? Safety from boys? Or safety from the evil minded devils those are just hungry for lust and end up in mole stating innocent girls. Well, the latter part is sadly and unfortunately true! Girls do not feel safe because of the devils and not from the boys. There are just a bunch of evil minded people who should be punished so brutally that they never forget in their next seven births. But we live in India where the only step govt. took while the country grieves; the govt imposes sec 144 & shuts metro stations. Incorrigible!!!We are a country that kills little girls before they are born.

“ Ek Mahila ka rape hua”
“ Chalti Bus mei student k sath rape”
“Boss ne kia apni assistant ka rape”
“ 40 saal ki mahila ka rape”
and sadly but the truth
“ 5 saal ki buchchi ka rape” ?

5 years? She is just 5! We don’t even know what we were when we were five. And that small angel was continuously screaming at the top of her voice in a room full of rapists. What was her fault? She wore revealing clothes? She trapped a rapist in her lusty charms? No!! As I already said this is just a state of mind. If a girl is fat she isn’t called sexy, why? Because flab is never in!  And the skinny one is the one who everybody dreams for. This is the state of mind. If she wears Salwar Kameez she becomes an aunt and when she wears shorts she looks Hot! This is the state of mind. If her cleavage is visible she is a slut and if she hides behind several drapes, she doesn’t have a figure for jeans. This is the state of mind.
Why she has to look hot? Why she has to show her cleavage? Why she has to travel in the ladies compartment? So that boys notice? No, my dear, you are sadly mistaken! She can do anything because she has the right to because she is confident enough she won’t get raped. But ironically living in a metropolitan city and being afraid of men is just not weakening herself, but weakening the whole foundation of the women society.

If she dates more than 3 guys she is labelled as a slut and if he is surrounded by a bunch of girls He is the “CASANOVA”.

Who are too we blame?
Police? No!
Do you know what is happening on the fifth floor in the last house on your street? Then how come a policeman knows what is happening to a five-year-old in a room of Gandhi Nagar. We call them corrupt. Aren’t we corrupt? Don’t we occupy a seat in a college by means of fake certificates? Don’t we watch pirated videos after their release? We all have been under the influence of corruption once in our lives. So we can’t put the entire blame on the cops neither on boys. This is just a state of mind. If this post occupies even a 0.5 % of your brain then my mission will be accomplished.
We have to reply strongly. Change begins within us. Change begins with our steps. When we will change No Jiah Khan will commit suicide, in fact, no heroine will commit suicide. No boyfriend will use and throw a girl. No Damini will be raped and girls will walk freely on the roads, the other compartments will be full of girls. We will not have to buy a shrug for a tube top. We could live our dreams. We won’t be marrying young. Take the first step!
Respect a girl as you respect Maa Durga!

And don’t ever call a girl a slut!

(Komal hain kamzor nahi hai)
       (shakti ka naam he naari hai)
       (Jag ko jeevan Dene wali)
      (Maut bhi tujhse haari hain!

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34 thoughts on “Don’t Call (HER) a Slut !”

  1. Well,Somya, nice attempt as I always say.But u r mistaken if u think there was a time when we wre treated like a princess.Actually,the female sex has never encountered this phase since its creation.And as you know this is one of the favourite discussions of mine as am a feminist. Well,nice start..i would like to talk more about this very topic later.

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    1. Hey Ammy!
      Thank you for your comment.
      Well there was a time when girls we treated like princess. We all have read about it in the Indian history be it Jodha, Razia Sultana, Radha and Meera. They weren’t the prisoners of rapes and sexual harassment 🙂
      I am glad you liked it .

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  2. I sometimes laugh and most of the times choke by these narrow views of society. Well, am talking about this very generation only.Its a pity when a boy, on being called CASANOVA feels proud..and a girl on being called SLUT is ashamed of it.WHY? Think! Think in the cases of both. Both the above are abuses to the respective sex but both take it in etirely opposite ways.I LL tell u why.It is because a girl is haunted on being called a slut by teasy remarks even by her friends..forget about the society! And for a boy? He is appreciated within his peer group as for winning laurels to their sex. Haha! Makes me laugh wen I think about their mental levels! Not their sole mistakes..i hve heard their parents say..”hamaare bete ke liye to ladkio ki line lagi h” What? Shit? Ridiculous!

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  3. told u this ws a hot topic… u nailed it & I loved it… though I feeel horrible for those poor girl & not to be biased or smthn bt tht 5 yr girl… ohh cummon, wht is it with the society…. I feeel ashamed of it…. 😥 😥 😥
    bt u hv done an awsme job so far…. & I really love u sharing ur experience in all of ur writes…. tht is tooo good & tht mf B@$t@rD kya hua uska… saaale ka kuch kiya nhi…?? O.o 😡

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  4. Amazing…. very true every one dreams of freedom 4 themselves bt 4gt evertime when it come for others……
    Delhi ki izzat ka bhi RAPE ho raha in jaise DEVIL ki wajah se…

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  5. Excellent work Saumya!! I completely agree people are not bad, but their state of mind which makes them feel a girl is an object, u may use n throw it.. And such thinking is growing regularly among many youths. Thinking needs to change! With efforts like this piece, surely ek chinghari to lagegi.. Send it to a national daily, i’m sure it’ll be published..Superlike!!

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  6. this is good !! its g8 that you voiced your thoughts and double standards are there in the society on one side women are given the position of goddess but on the other side female infanticide,rape,dowry harrassment still takes place ……………….on top of it when a girl gets raped the question asked is what was she wearing??? ……..rape is about POWER and CONTROL!! a means to ‘teach a lesson to this chit of a girl’ and boys should taught from an early age to respect women.

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  7. While I felt that the post is a lil contrived it did hold up a very topical issue. I somehow feel that the post merges gender equality and gender abuse….which are two very different aspects…..Abuse is unacceptable in every form but equality is certainly debatable…..still I applaud her for her vehement attempt to speak her mind out.Awareness in any form is always welcome.

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    1. Thank you Gargi 🙂
      This post was not based on one topic as you can see. I have mentioned about eve-teasing, rapes, gender abuse at the same time. That is why it was named “Don’t Call Me a Slut” ! It was completely dedicated to the life of a girl surviving in an evil society.

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  8. Its a nice way to expression the feelings why girls alwys treated like they are not a prt of the society.. Why alwys a girls have to sacrifies thieri emotions and life for sake of others….

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  9. for the happenings in dis society,,i don’t feel ashamed,jst feel responsible for d part i did not played…d voice dat i did not raised….u did..and m glad u did..!!!..v all have d potential to bring that change,,but all v don’t want is to b blamed…i love d way u write..it has that connectivity..seeing the present scenario i vry much feel the need for that big step..the society needs to give itself a big push now…..well for now..gr8 work saumya..eagerly waiting for your next hit…
    all d very best..:)

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  10. u know ….there was a time when everything used to go systematically…but today i know this scenario has bn changed completely…whether its for gals or about corruption….
    i do have a lot of friends ….with different categories like price tags , lusty etc etc….some friends respect the gals acc. to their behaviour,some friends have never thought of respecting the gals…
    i used to avoid them by abusing gals and ol….but now everything is changed yaar we cant avoid people by doing anything…..so i thought someday u know i should adapt accordingly…dont know about respecting gals ….as far as i know myself …i dont hurt them thats what i know….now lemme come up on saumya…
    yaar as i told u before there is noone like u …..ur writing,mentality everything….
    writers manipulate the incidents ,,the real incidents as well in their writings but its something really different what u write…
    one day,i will thrw all the novels in the well and wud read urs only..
    i can bet it…..

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    1. Hitesh, I think I have thanked you enough already 🙂 This is probably the best thing somebody has said to me and never throw any novel or a piece of paper in a well. It is my food material you see. !

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  11. Hats off to uh Saumya…Awesome work…:) gr8 work to awake d present society….but still its hard too change mind of those devils bt its not impossible….bt ya we hope d best day comes….ur way of writing is as always killing..best wishes for upcoming…(Y)

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  12. Very well expressed Saumya……We all have experienced molestation/harassment at one stage or the other in our lives…..I feel as a woman it is our duty to teach our sons/brothers to respect women to bring a change …Wish u all d best in life…

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  13. I dun knw..what tu say..m speechless…!ITSS ssooo amazzing…!
    You have taken a big step tu awake the society… hope people change their state of mind by reading this !Ausum workk gall….u really rockss…!
    I AM waiting for more BLOGS…:)
    write soon!
    ALL THE BEST..!:)!

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  14. a masterpiece,
    as usual…
    i was more curious to knw every second word u wrote…..
    we have just learnd dat women and men r equal….
    both the gender deserves the same respect…..

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  15. I just wan 2 say u one think salute 2 u to express the girls emotion i totally respect for u and what u said
    i can tell u in english ………..
    mai bas itna kehna chahata hoon jo tumne likha is just feelings of all girls jinke sath hua hai ye sab ya jo is isse gujri hai and jo tumne 5 years ki girl ke liye wo 2 line likhi wo mere bhi khayal me aayi thi jab maine ye news suni
    i cant say more i just say keep writing like this on girls to express thier view may people heard and read that and think to thier satate of mind

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